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Mishpachah Yeshua Newsletter A Newsletter To The Family Of Jesus From Restoration Ministries The Hebraic family is not simply an individual or private matter. [click here for a printable copy] February 2002 Topic: Our
Father’s Purpose and Criteria for Fellowship in Him Dear Friends,
Most of us are familiar with the primary
expression of Christianity—attending church services.
Services and so many other representations of Chris-tianity
revolve around some scheduled activity. The thought of living
in serendipitous intimacy with our Lord and with
others—eager and available to seize the opportune
moment—is as foreign to many as Mary’s response to
Jesus is from her sister Martha’s. Mary basked in
relational intimacy in His presence, while Martha experienced
Jesus in their home in terms of the myriad of activities that
had to be done.
As Sue and I stroll around our
neighborhood on the prairie, we often pass a home that has two
dogs. One wags, open and friendly—bounds right up to us.
The other dog barks, pacing a safe distance away. When we pet
the first dog, we can tell that the second wants affection too,
but fear keeps him from drawing near us. How many
Christians live like this second dog —backing away from
intimacy with our Lord because they fear the consequences?
Our Father’s Goal for Fellowship
As I was reading and meditating on the
Word one recent morning, the Holy Spirit explained to me three
criteria and purposes why our Father desires us to be in
fellowship with others.
1. Our fellowship with others must spur us on to glorify our Father through praise, worship, and living testimony.
2. Our fellowship with each other should
result in growth in Christlikeness in each person.
3. Our fellowship must provide the
corrective/confrontational means to assist each other toward entering the narrow gate.
The sign of our being in the fellowship
our Father prescribes is love and trust-filled
obedience that grow increasingly
over time. The Bible commands Jesus- followers to “walk by trust, not by sight.” Each person who would follow Jesus needs the
support of others to undo the rule of our carnal reasoning so
that we may develop reliance on the Holy Spirit. The age-old battle
will always be between trust and analytical
reason:
Holy Spirit Soul (mind, will, emotions)
Trust <———— — — — — —> Reason
The three purposes of fellowship outline
an ongoing pilgrimage in which, together with the guidance of
the Holy Spirit within your family and/or extended family of
loadbearers, you are working out your salvation. Our
Father’s three criteria and purposes answer the question
“Why” the Lord desires you to be in fellowship. Knowing
“why” enables you to align
your motives with our
Father’s desire. This is pleasing to Him and a blessing
to you.
I know that some of you are saying that
you can’t find a loadbearing group that embraces the
three criteria for fellowship. I want to propose a question:
Are the three purposes found in
your own home? As a husband, are
you the “Abraham” leading your family into the ways of our Lord? If someone
asked your children, “Who exercises spiritual leadership
in your family, your Dad or Mom?”, how would they
respond? If you have relegated, delegated, or abdicated your
spiritual responsibility to anyone else, get on your knees, ask
forgiveness and take back the responsibility. It would be
terrible to find your wife and children going through the
narrow gate because of their obedient trust walk, and you
splattered on the wall next to it through no connection with
the Vine.
“I tell you the truth, unless a
kernel of wheat falls to the ground and dies,
it remains only a single seed. But if it
dies,
it produces many seeds” (John 12:24).
The Lord used many agricultural
illustrations in His parables. During our 11 years at a
farm/retreat center in Connecticut tending animals and a large
garden, these agricultural underpinnings took on greater
clarity. Farming is an ongoing cycle of animals and plants
dying in order to provide life for those who consume them. In
essence, there is no life without
death. As one author wrote,
“The greatest victory was achieved with the death of the
Victor.” Our faith would be fruitless if Jesus
hadn’t died. As we shall see, we too are fruitless until
we die to ourselves so that we can truly live fruitfully for
our Father.
The Parable of the Sower in Matthew 13 is
one of those striking accounts that offers insight into our
Father’s criteria for fellowship:
“A farmer went out to sow his seed.
As he was scattering the seed, some fell along the path, and
the birds came and ate it up. Some fell on rocky places, where
it did not have much soil. It sprang up quickly, because the
soil was shallow. But when the sun came up, the plants were
scorched, and they withered because they had no root. Other
seed fell among thorns, which grew up and choked the plants.
Still other seed fell on good soil, where it produced a
crop—a hundred, sixty or thirty times what was sown. He
who has ears, let him hear.”
The message of the kingdom is going out
throughout the world, and the seed is being cast. But which one
of the four soils is acceptable to our Father? The soil of our
hearts and of those with whom we fellowship strongly affects
our ability to bear fruit that brings glory to our Father. Only
good soil produces fruit. They hear, they understand, and they
produce. Also, remember that it takes cross-pollination in order
for a plant to be truly fruitful. Selah.
What people consider
“fellowship” in most organized church systems has
little or nothing to do with the purpose of those seeking
intimate relationship with our Father and with each other. In
order to truly fellowship with Jesus-followers, seek the discernment
of the Holy Spirit.
(Let me clarify here that we are commanded
to come alongside as friends to those who have yet to follow
Jesus. How else will they see Him as alive in us? But this does not constitute biblical fellowship, which is intimate relationship
with those who are indwelled by the Holy Spirit. Welcoming as a
friend and joining as one in fellowship are two entirely
different matters! )
I don’t give the “right hand of fellowship” too quickly because I like to know if the
Spirit of our Father and His Son rests in a person. The
Gibeonite Ruse (see Joshua 9) is still part of Satan’s
arsenal. Any time we fail to exercise discernment and to seek
our Lord for wisdom, we’re susceptible to this trap. I
also get nervous if Christians accept me too readily as a
follower of Jesus without “kicking
my tires and checking my teeth.”
Seed on the Path—The Devil Snatches
How does Satan snatch away the message of
the Kingdom? Jesus tells His disciples, “When he hears the message about the kingdom and does not understand it, the evil one comes and snatches away what was sown
in his heart.” How can this
happen? Discussion of truth is absolutely essential in order for you to
gain understanding. Lecture provides no feedback to see if
you’ve even understood what is being taught. Discussion with others is the principle Hebraic
methodology to gain understanding.
The Holy Spirit impressed on me a few days
ago, “Outside of the symbol of the Cross, the next most
important symbol is ‘?’— the question mark. A question goes
further than a ‘.’ or ‘!’ to help
people understand.” Studies show that a person retains
only 20% of a lecture, but 70% of a discussion. If you consider yourself a
teacher in a faith community, try communicating
with rather than talking at. You just may
keep Satan from snatching those our Lord has entrusted to your
care!
Seed on the Rocks—Trouble or
Persecution
This group experiences great joy in
hearing the message of the Kingdom, but what happens next? “Since he has
no root, he lasts only a short
time. When trouble or persecution comes because of the word, he
quickly falls away.” Later,
in our study of the seed that falls on good soil and bears
fruit, we’ll show the importance of “attachment to the Vine.” Sadly, much of Christianity offers a lot
of activity that calls for no attached relationship with
Jesus.
How was the message of the Kingdom
presented to this group? Did the message call for their repentance, turning
away from sin to come to our Father through Jesus? Or, were
they led to believe that everything would go great for them
after they “came to Jesus”, as many false gospels
today assert? Were they told the
truth that trials and tribulation
would come, and that their stand of faith had made Satan their
adversary? Were they encouraged that our Father designs that
trials should lead us to trust Him more?
Seed Among the Thorns—
Worries, Deceitfulness of Wealth, Wrong
Desires
Far too many who started their salvation
pilgrimage bearing fruit have, over time, found themselves
choked among the thorns. What was once a vibrant relationship
ended as little more than religious form. Paul voiced his
concern for the Galatians, who first began with the Spirit: “You were running a good race. Who cut in
on you and kept you from obeying the truth?” (5:7).
“The worries of this life, the
deceitfulness of wealth and the desires for other things come
in and choke the word, making it unfruitful” (Mark 4:19). Worries, fleshly longings, and the
deception that you can rely on what you’ve acquired are
cited when this category of soil is considered because worry
and the deceitfulness of wealth attack the very nature of God
Himself. People trapped in this miry clay are really saying,
“God, you’re untrustworthy. I’d better have a
backup in case you don’t come through!” This attack
on our Lord’s very character lures people to a splattered
end—they miss the gate. Selah.
Consider this thought: Are choked,
unfruitful people members of the Kingdom? Do they belong to the
circle of those who bear fruit, or to the previous two soils
who have no trust? Sadly, many consider these people OK in the Kingdom.
The Bible doesn’t support this. The Greek root word for
the choked condition of the worriers and self-reliant means strangled or drowned—both
lethal states. These folks are heading for the wall!
Mark’s account of the sower adds,
“and the desires for other
things come in” to choke off
a person’s ability to bear fruit for the Kingdom. This “desire for other things” may seem a little matter to some, a minor sin
— nothing to concern themselves with. When challenged by
“fruit-bearers”, their slick response is something
like, “Nobody’s perfect.” But does our Lord
really tolerate purposes or goals other
than Himself? We’re told, “But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all
these things will be given to you as well” (Matt. 6:33).
Have you ever heard the saying, “If the Lord isn’t Lord of all, He
isn’t Lord at all”? What seems
like a minor hindrance to bearing fruit is really idolatry.
Doesn’t our Lord address this “desire for other things” when He commands, “You
shall not make [seek] for yourself an idol in the form of
anything in heaven above or on the earth beneath or in the
waters below. You shall not bow down to them or worship them;
for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, punishing the
children for the sin of the fathers to the third and fourth
generation of those who hate me” (Exodus 20:4,5)?
How many choked parents are dooming their children to the
consequences of their idolatry? As Christian pollsters have
found, the children of “Christian” homes are just
as bent on materialism and wealth as their unchurched peers!
The consequence? Several generations of emotional loneliness
and epidemic divorce.
Grievously, the “choked in the thorns” group represent a majority in most faith communities
throughout the US. They fail to grasp how really narrow the narrow
gate is and how strong our Lord’s command is to “strive to enter by the narrow
gate.” How many countless
people end their lives splattered on the wall next to the
narrow gate, or wander off onto a counterfeit path that is wide
and inclusive but destructive in the end? As with the previous two
groups we discussed, these miss union with the Lord Jesus. They
don’t become His because they are not attached to the
VINE. If they were, they would produce fruit that would last!
Avoid a Prolapsed Uterus
In divine timing Sue and I called our
Board member, Dr. Dillard “Griff” Griffith, and his
wife, Reva, two days ago. There were circumstances in all our
lives into which the conversation imparted blessing. Griff
shared a vivid dream he’d had the night before, and
immediately both Sue and I had a rhema of understanding its significance to this
newsletter and to the “thorny group” in particular.
We asked Griff’s permission to include his dream because
of the blessing it was to us. As Griff related it,
“I had a dream, and in the dream I
did an abdominal hysterectomy on a woman for some undefined
reason. For some unknown reason I had failed to give the woman
a full physical checkup before the operation. This is something
I would never think of omitting.
The uterus had a five-month-old baby,
which, of course, did not survive the procedure. At this point
my medical school mentor, Dr. Hall, came into the picture and
we performed a complete, though belated, physical. This exam
revealed that this woman had a massive prolapse: the ligaments attaching the uterus were torn. Without criticism from Dr. Hall, and under his
direction, I proceeded with the repair. At this point the dream
ended. I knew I deserved criticism for the omitted physical,
but instead, my mentor helped me to complete the necessary task
at hand.
I asked the Holy Spirit for an
interpretation and was impressed with the following: “The
collective Church is referred to as ‘The Bride of
Christ.’ This bride has suffered multiple unskilled and
unfounded intrusions because of ignorance. We can only help
this ailing patient when we understand the anatomy and that
which has produced the disfiguration. Only a few wise men have
the ability to properly discern and correctly approach the
problem. The incorrect treatment will only cause further
disability and death. Ligaments are key structures in any body.
When these become severed and torn, gross malformations and
severe disability occurs.
How many infant Christians have been
destroyed through premature actions by uncaring hands?
Scripture states that Jesus the Messiah (The Bridegroom) is
returning for a Bride (the Church) which has neither spot nor
wrinkle. Now is the time that God is searching for caring,
trained hands which will bring about order in His
Bride.”
Note that the preborn baby in the uterus never developed into maturity, i.e., never became fruit-bearing. Left in a state of
immature confinement, the baby perished. The ligaments which
were designed to support and uphold the uterus for development
to maturation were torn and dysfunctional, worthless to both
themselves and to the one they were supposed to support. They
were unable to “bear the load.”
Each of the soils we have discussed so far
fails to achieve the Vine attachment our Lord desires and
demands. Even in Griff’s dream, a uterus, as do many
unbiblical movements in Christiandom, may somewhat function
without the necessary ligament attachment. But complications
result! We want to cover some of these
“complications” that are affecting people’s
progress into maturity in Jesus, which is fruit-bearing.
“Formerly, when you did not know
God, you were slaves to those who by nature are not gods. But
now that you know God—or rather are known by
God—how is it that you are turning back to those weak and
miserable elemental spirits? Do you wish to be enslaved by them
all over again? You are observing special days and months and
seasons and years! I fear for you, that somehow I have wasted
my efforts on you”
(Gal. 4:8-11).
Elemental spirits attempt to keep us from experiencing our freedom in
Jesus. They want us to remain immature and unfruitful—in
other words, choked. Their ploy is to drag us back into forms of
religious practice that keep us complacent in our religiosity.
Elemental spirits rely on our old nature to keep us in bondage
because something in our carnal nature yearns to walk by sight. That
is, we find assurance when someone
else tells us what to do to in our
religious practice. Yet the Spirit fights to have us live by trust.
However, it is our ongoing attachment to
Jesus and to others that enables us to meet the three God-given
purposes of fellowship. When we are under the control of the
elemental spirits, we look for religious rules and activities
that persuade us to feel good about ourselves, to be accepted
by the majority, and to take pride in our religious practice.
In his insightful commentary, Jewish
follower of Jesus, David H. Stern, refers to the above
Galatians passage: “Judaism...is a religion based on
sanctification of time. [They do this by recognizing special
days]— Sabbath, Passover, Pentecost, Tabernacles, Yom
Kippur, and others. When Gentiles observe these Jewish holidays
neither out of joy...or spiritual identification, but out of fear induced
by Judaizers who have convinced them that unless they do these things, God will not accept them, then they are not obeying
the Torah, but subjugating
themselves to legalism; and
legalism is just another species of those elemental demonic
spirits, no better than the idols they left behind” (emphasis
added).
Elemental spirits trap all kinds of
“would be” followers of Jesus, especially those who
are unattached to the Head. Rather than pursuing a life in the
Spirit they stalk a pattern that appeals to their natural
nature. Paul also warns the Colossians of the trap of the
elemental spirit (see Col. 2:18-23). Again, the trap he speaks
of is religious activity as an end in itself. These are things
that people tell you that you must do in order to be accepted
by God, parameters that require not trust, but activity.
Jesus is the LORD of Relationships
Satan is the god of religious systems
The elemental spirits that enslave faith
communities employ a variety of now broadly accepted forms.
Even the house church movement and home education cavalcade can
become a means of enslavement if the purposes are detached from
our Father’s purpose. Other prisons include liturgy or
lively worship if used as an end in themselves. That is, they
can produce soulish satisfaction for the individual but bring
no glory to our Father.
Elemental spirits encourage blind
conformity to denominational creed that stifles the right to
question. Many people believe that the creed they were taught
will get them through the narrow gate. But creed without relationship is
nothing more than control by a few over the many. It creates a
false sense of unity, and indulges people’s passivity
rather than fanning the flame to fulfill our Lord’s
purposes.
Confronting the Judaizing of the Church
We continue to hear from an increasing
number of you who have Gentile friends who join Messianic
synagogues and become choked in Jewish ritual. Sue and I find
ourselves, like Paul in his letter to the Galatians, fighting
against the Judaizing of those seeking to follow Jesus. If you
are a Gentile considering Messianic Judaism, especially in
which “Torah
Observance” is stressed above
the trust-filled obedience of our spiritual father, Abraham, BE
CAREFUL! Your trust in Jesus has already made you free. HOLD ON
TO THAT!
When you hear statements such as,
“Our righteousness is found in keeping the Torah,” you
are heading for enslavement. Paul would voice the same warning
to you that he did to those who sought enslavement in his day: “So what are we to say? This: that
Gentiles, even though they were not striving for righteousness,
have obtained righteousness, but it is a righteousness grounded in trusting! However, Israel, even though they kept pursuing a
Torah that offers righteousness, did not reach what the Torah
offers. Why? Because they did not
pursue righteousness as being grounded in trusting, but as it
were grounded in doing legalistic works. They stumbled over the ‘stone that makes
people stumble.’ As the Tanakh [Older Testament] puts it:
‘See, I lay in Zion a stone that causes men to stumble
and a rock that makes them fall, and the one who trusts in him
will never be put to shame’” (Rom. 9:30-33, JNT).
When you read Romans 10:1-4 you see that
the Judaizers understood righteousness in the keeping of Torah, not in
trusting Jesus. In Romans 10:9,10, we Gentiles followers are
declared righteous through our trust in Jesus, and because of that trust, righteous acts flow lovingly to the glory of our
Father.
Holy Spirit Elemental Spirits
Jesus <—source of righteousness—>Torah
Trust
<—way of
life—>
Legalistic Perversion
Freedom
<—life’s
outcome—>
Enslavement
Intimate Relationship <—rely on—>
Organization
Fellowshipping with the
“choked” will choke you!
The choked invite you into a system, not a
relationship. System says, ”Come
to my church service.” Relationship responds, “Come
to my home and be my friend.” Paul warned the Galatians of the motive of the Judaizers: “Those people are zealous to win you over,
but for no good. What they want is to alienate you from us, so
that you may be zealous for them...Those who want to make a
good impression outwardly are trying to compel you to [join
their church]. The only reason they do this is to avoid being
persecuted for the cross of Christ” (4:17; 6:12).
As a family head evaluate the fruit of the
group with whom you fellowship:
Is your life glorifying the Father?
Is there increasing Christlikeness
in your life?
Is there adequate
correction/confrontation?
Bearing Fruit for the Kingdom
“Speaking the truth in love, we will
in all things grow up into him who is the Head, that is,
Christ. From him the whole body, joined and held together by every supporting ligament, grows and builds itself up in love, as each
part does its work” (Ephesians
4:15,16).
The Hebraic Restoration offers a relational attachment to our Lord Jesus that displays itself in both intimacy and spiritual power.
This is our Father’s means for you to bear fruit that
will last—fruit for His glory. It is because of trust in
His love that followers of Jesus are able live free and to share His love freely. Out of that love for our Father you are given the
privilege to represent Him and His commands as a way of life, and not
as religious form separated from your daily life. You
don’t have to go some place to seek Him. He is already in you,
desiring that you represent Him to the world. You know that you
are His because of the aroma that the Lord’s presence
produces. All of your actions flow from your freedom to love.
Sue and I, like some of you, are the first
generation who are following Jesus in our families. My
upbringing was as much a cultural expression as religious. I
was raised in a tight-knit Polish-Catholic community. Attending
services, obeying ecclesiastic traditions and agreeing with
creedal positions were the foremost issues of our religious
practice. Sue dallied in a few denominations, but shared little
participation by her family.
Shifting to the Hebraic
If you weren’t raised in a home that
was conscious of seeing God’s activity around you or
applying His Word to the situations you face in life, the
Hebraic [Abrahamic] walk of obedient trust can be life-changing. I
remember when Sue and I first began to look for God’s
interventions. We called them “God
sightings” — as
simple as an answer to prayer, or one of those “divine
appointments” such as a timely phone call or someone you
just happen to run into. As we trained ourselves to look for
our Lord at work, we began to marvel at just how busy He was
around us!
Within a year of following Jesus, we
attended a Basic Life Principles Seminar. The teacher, Bill
Gothard, was the first person who showed us that the Bible had
living and reliable answers that addressed so many life
situations. Next on our application learning curve was an Old
Testament Survey class at seminary where Dr. Doug Stuart taught
us the value of halakhahs. A halakhah is more than rhema. Rhema is the Holy Spirit’s particular and specific guidance for you. For instance, the Holy Spirit may prompt you
to phone someone at a particular time or to write a check for a
specific amount to a person or ministry. Rhema usually
provides a one-time insight or guidance.
Unlike rhema, a halakhah is the establishment of a life principle based
upon the Scriptures. It is an application
of God’s Word for a situation
you are confronting, or the establishment of a life-long
principle. Among God’s people, halakhahs would be passed
along from generation to generation so that their offspring
would have a spiritual inheritance of how the Holy Spirit had guided their
ancestors.
Beginning with the teachings of Jesus and
many of the Newer Testament writers, a transition occurs: a
shift away from the scribal way of teaching Torah to showing the path
of how to apply it. The process of halakhah formation entails seeing a problem, seeking a
biblical solution, and taking action based upon the solution
— problem, solution, action. Notice how often Newer Testament writers
address a problem, cite a particular part of the Older
Testament as their source, and provide a halakhic solution for
others to take action. This approach enables us to compile
testimonies that glorify our Father: problem, solution, action.
God sightings, rhema, and halakhahs are a living way to both
experience our Lord and to appropriate His guidance so that
your trust in Jesus bears living fruit. These three elements of
your pilgrimage entail far more than knowledge of the Bible.
They represent your earnestness to live a life that glorifies our Father.
You who are first generation followers of Jesus or who have
been raised in the Christian community without awareness of
Father’s way of living for Him have the privilege to
begin a generation-to-generation process that will hopefully
encourage those who follow to live a life which brings glory to
our God.
Glorifying the Father — Online!
Coming soon to www.Restorationministries.org!
We‘ve recruited several individuals and families to join
us in a new feature coming to our website called “Glorifying the Father.” Each person who shares will have their own
family branch onto which they can add God-sightings, rhema, or halakhahs. We want
those who come to the website to be encouraged to understand
following Jesus as a way of life, not as a form of religious observance.
The whole pattern of these testimonies is storytelling on a personally experienced level. It is recounting the sighting, rhema, or halakhah as it
happened. We have encouraged those contributing to include the
feelings, if appropriate, that they were experiencing as the
story unfolded so that the reader can put himself into the
situation. This is not an attempt to teach as much as to share. Godly
sharing provides the opportunity for those hearing a story to
identify with the teller as a fellow follower of Jesus.
To stimulate your thinking, here are
examples of each category from our own lives:
1. God sighting
When our Lord told us to go to Israel to
live with our friends, the Schlossbergs, we had no money to go.
Yet, He impressed on us to make a plane reservation, so, in
obedience, we did. On the last day and at the last hour in
which we could secure the reservation by paying for the
tickets, we received a check that covered the entire cost of
our travel.
While in Israel, with the bare minimum of
funds, Sue began spotting shekels (shiny, dime-like coins) on the ground in
all sorts of unusual settings to encourage us to trust Him for
provision. When we returned to the US, we continued to find
coins on the ground, often after we were praying about a
certain purchase or expenditure. With each coin we sensed our
Father’s affirmation that the funds would be there and
that we were to press on.
2. Rhema
While we were in Israel we were earnestly
praying as to whether our Lord would have us stay there or
return to the US. During my morning Bible time a few days after
we’d begun to pray, I was reading the story of the
demoniac in the region of the Gerasenes. As I noticed
Jesus’s words to him, “Go
home to your family and tell them how much the Lord has done
for you, and how he has had mercy on you” (Mark 5:19), I had an intense quickening
in my spirit that our Lord was speaking to me. I wrote next to
the verse, “in Jerusalem, 1/13/94.”
Soon afterward, we attended a prayer
conference in Jerusalem. A pastor from Memphis who didn’t
know me walked up and put his hand on my shoulder and revealed
the answers to two prayers about which Sue and I had told no
one else. That got our attention! He then added,
“Brother, do you know that the Lord brought you here so
that you could go back to the United States with a prophetic
message?” His knowledge of our secret needs gave credence
that the message he shared had its source in our Lord. But we
added this to our hearts and waited for further confirmation.
A week later we were attending worship in
Jerusalem and the pastor was teaching from Genesis 33. As I was
following him in my Bible, my eyes were drawn from the right
page to the far left page where I read, “Then Jacob prayed, ‘O God of my father
Abraham, God of my father Isaac, O Lord, who said to me, “Go back to your country and your
relatives, and I will make you prosper,” I am unworthy of all the kindness and
faithfulness you have shown your servant. I had only my staff
when I crossed this Jordan, but now I have become two
groups’” (Gen. 32:
9,10). I felt another quickening as though the Holy Spirit was
showing me something. I wrote next to the verse,
“Jerusalem, 1/22/94, Mike & Sue?”
Sue and I were convinced that our Lord was
directing us back to the US to live with my Mom. After we
arrived back at the Schlossbergs’ from the service, Bert
and Exie told us that they’d been praying, and the Holy
Spirit had shown them that we were to return to our family in
Connecticut.
3. Halakhah
When our son, Mike, was about 13, we
established a halakhah by which we would bless his marriage when the
time came. He needed to hear from Sue that she respected him. We
derived this from Ephesians 5:33b, “and
the wife must respect her husband.” We felt as Mike’s parents that we owed to
both the bride and her parents that our training of Mike should
make it easy for her to respect him. If his own mother
couldn’t respect him, then we wouldn’t attend his
wedding.
Mike needed to hear from me that I
considered him responsible enough not only to render account to God for
himself, but also for his wife. This was derived from several
passages of Scripture in which men tried to give excuses to God
and lost their position. The key passage was taken from
Adam’s words that blamed his wife: “The woman you put here with me—she gave
me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it” (Gen. 3:12). Rather than take full
responsibility and ask forgiveness, he blamed his wife.
We hope the above are helpful, but
don’t consider them limiting. Our Father wants to be
glorified by what His people share. The ways in which He has
intervened in your life will be totally different than how
He’s revealed Himself in ours — and that’s
the wonder of His creativity! We’re sure that your stories
will be rich in encouraging others to find the path for
themselves that brings Him glory.
Thoughts to Consider
All three purposes for your fellowship
operate in conjunction with each other. We all need the
corrective processes encompassed in intimate relationships. We
each need the encouragement and role modeling of others bent on
growing in Christlikeness. And any purpose or goal that fails to glorify our Father, be it finding a job, buying a home, home schooling,
or joining a home fellowship is a path to enslavement.
Most of you have found that in your
pursuit of the three criteria, the Lord has left you
fellowshipping only with your family or a few others for a
season. It seems lonely at first. But shouldn't this be where
the intimacy that Mary cherished in Jesus’s presence be
nurtured? Being set apart for a time to strengthen your family
relationships in intimacy and power doesn't mean
unfruitfulness. Fruit-bearing in the Kingdom has a variety of
forms.
Richard Wurmbrand (founder of Voice of the
Martyrs): “I am president of a world-wide mission. I was
brought to Christ by a Romanian carpenter, Wolfkes, who prayed
for years — without result — that he might not die
before bringing one Jew to Christ. God granted him two, my wife
and myself. We brought to the Savior a few other Jews; and
these, in turn won more. The result can be seen now in thriving
Hebrew-Christian congregations in many towns in Israel.
Once when I told the story of my
conversion in a Romanian village I noticed that a very old man
in the audience was weeping. He told me at the end: ‘God
used me to bring that carpenter to Jesus. I thought that I had
toiled all my life uselessly. I heard from you now that I am a
grandfather in faith of many Jews.’”
If we truly are the soil fit for the
message of the Kingdom, then each of us can bear fruit that
lasts. But we must focus outside ourselves and our desires. No
fruit matures just for itself. When it is mature it has
reproduced itself in the seeds that will die and bear more
fruit. Hallelujah!
Francis of Assisi’s prayer needs to
be the heart of our fellowship focus:
Make me an instrument of Thy peace;
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
Where there is doubt, faith;
Where there is despair, hope;
Where there is darkness, light;
And where there is sadness, joy.
O Divine Master, grant that I may not so
much seek to be consoled, as to console; to be understood, as
to understand; to be loved, as to love; for it is in giving
that we receive, it is in pardoning that we are pardoned, and
it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.
Please join us in our Father’s
Vineyard! Ask Him to prune both the unfruitful branches and the
choking thorns. May death to ourselves mean life for many. Pray
to Jesus that the joy set before Him to die for us would be our
joy as we die to our plans, desires, and ambitions in order to
reproduce Him in others.
Our love,
Mike & Sue Phil. 1:9-11
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